Single Male Guide

Being a single male on the swinging scene isn’t always easy so we decided to write this simple guide to what life at JCT2 for a single male attending one of our parties is like.  If you’ve got any questions just call/text us on 07754 943 511 or email us at houseparties4u@gmail.com and we'll do our best to help you.

So why is it difficult?   Well a lot of how you’ll be received at parties goes down to behaviour, following the set etiquette and the attitude of others at the party. You have to remember that not every couple or single female at every party wants to play with single guys. They may be at the party just to swap with other couples or meet a single female.  That’s their right so if a couple does turn you down or simply not show interest in playing with you it’s just their personal desires.    The flipside is of course that some couples and single females come to parties with the distinct desire of finding a single male to play with, so it’s all down to personal choice. You have to remember one major fact when you come to JCT2 and that is that the venue is a swingers club not a brothel.  They’re two very different things and no club in the world can guarantee that their guests will come to the club and get laid, it’s a lot harder than that!

You also have to remember 100% that “No means No”.   Don’t interrupt anyone’s playing and under no circumstances start trying to play with anyone without their express permission.  Also if you do see someone you like, don’t start following them around the club, that’s really not going to win any friends.    We also recommend that if say you come along with two or three friends don’t just go round the club together, the sudden appearance of three or four single guys together isn’t going to make couples or single females feel relaxed. 

So what’s the best way to get on at the party?   Well being a wallflower isn’t going to get you anywhere.   In many ways a swingers party at JCT2 is just like any other party, you just don’t need to get a taxi to take your conquest home once you’ve pulled.  Put some effort into your appearance, smart casual clothing and dress to impress. Introduce yourself to the other guests (not just the ones you take an instant fancy too), get to know people and make friends because the
social side of the club is excellent at JCT2. Just remember this hopefully isn’t going to be your only visit to the club, so make friends, be polite at all times and just like when you chat to someone in a pub or club over a period of time a friendship and the option to play upstairs might happen.  Above all, come along,
have a good time but please make sure you treat everyone with respect. 

Most of our guests bring wine or alcohol with them and they’re welcome to do so.  However, try not to overdo it, you might well be nervous but getting drunk at a swingers club isn’t a great idea.  Drunken behaviour isn’t going to impress anyone and even if it does and you end up playing upstairs will you be on top form after a skinful? Have a drink by all means but stay sober and don’t let it affect the way you behave towards people.

We want everyone to enjoy their night at JCT2,  sure if you’re new to the swinging scene it’ll take a little while to get used to this new adventure.  Take things at your own pace, perhaps even make your first visit similar to a scouting mission.  Get a feel of the venue, make some friends and above all have a good time.